freakpower70 wrote:So, my Vietnamese girlfriend and I are starting to discuss marriage and we get to the part about the traditional gifts I am to offer her family which include a roast pig. Being a vegetarian I inform her there is no way I am gifting a roast pig and she exclaims that it is traditional and I would not have to eat the pig. But still, I cannot do it. I want to respect the importance of these traditions but I need a solution that makes both side happy. There must be one, after all practicing Vietnamese Buddhists are vegetarian. Anyone know of a solution that keeps things traditional as possible?
Wow! What a great question.
You know, I'm a vegetarian, too. I have a weird suggestion: just give the roast pig. It sounds like the pig has a huge symbolic significance to her and her family. You are setting the tone for the whole marriage to come, and from time to time both you and she will have to "offer a roast pig," meaning you will do things you don't want to do for the sake of your spouses feelings. Keeping sentient beings happy, and not upsetting their minds, is part of all schools of Buddhism.