Thanks alot for your responses and sorry for being a bit slow
This is so new to me so its really hard to grasp it after all these years of influence from the western society.
So your saying that there is suffering, not that "Im suffering"? (1)
So the problem is that Im identifing myself with my feelings? (2)
That Im clinging/attaching myself to thing and expecting thing? (3)
And the solution is to be content with whatever happens? (4)
I dont understand how that is possible or if id want that.
How can you live a life without feeling and emotions? (5)
Isnt that to being apathetic? (6)
I couldnt imagine a life without pleasure and feeling, but I guess its because I dont know whats beyond that. (7)
To answer the points:
1. There is "suffering", there is "joy", They are two sides of one coin....the coin of sentient human existance. You can't get one without the other. The concept "I'm suffering" is an illusion generated by your Ego and by not understanding that both suffering and joy are fundamentally one thing....two sides of a coin.
2. Exactly....you are identifying your "Self" with your "feelings" as if they were two different things. They aren't.
4. NOT necessarily being content or not content....you can still make that choice of like or dislike yourself....but just to be aware of the true nature of those two illusions....and then guide your actions by your understanding of that true nature.
5. You don't need to live a life without "feelings or emotions"....see #4...just realise the true nature of those illusions.
Why chase after those illusions....only "pretty baubles held in your hands...meaningless...given to pacify the fretfull crying of restless children".
6. No, done that way...as described...it's certainly NOT apathic.
7. It's called "freedom"...or maybe (hate to use this word, but anyhow) liberation.
As I said previously...letting the wind blow you wherever it may (within reason anyhow) and living there and now in accord with your understanding....now that's the greatest freedom.
Shame on you Shakyamuni for setting the precedent of leaving home.
Did you think it was not there--
in your wife's lovely face
in your baby's laughter?
Did you think you had to go elsewhere (simply) to find it?
from - Judyth Collin
The Layman's Lament
From What Book, 1998, p. 52
Edited by Gary Gach