I also agree that people go to great lengths to seperate themselves. Our culture not only stresses materialism, but also individualism (is that a word?) Instead of sharing things like cars, computers, ect. we all feel that we need to each own these things ourselves as a mark of our status in society. The same applies with living situations.
This may be a bit off topic, but since we're talking about housing... About a year and a half ago I purchased a three bedroom house in North, Conway, NH. I currently live there by myself. I've rented the extra rooms out to a couple different people, but these situations did not work out for various reasons. I would love to create a household of practitioners. I don't believe that it is impossible to live with non-Buddhists, but conflicts invariably arise. Most of the people that I have lived with were young and have never been exposed to the Dharma, so they did not respect or understand my needs as a practitioner.
So anyway, I have two rooms for rent in North Conway. My vision is to create a household that supports Dharma practice. I fantasize about eventually turning my house into some sort of Dharma center, or at least having weekly practice groups. I know of a couple of lamas who told me that they would possibly teach here if I ever got anything started. Sorry to turn your thread into a personal classified ad. I just wanted to get the word out in case there was anyone in the area or thinking of moving here. Its a nice spot, there's climbing and skiing right out the back door and I am only a couple of hours away from Tsegyalgar and Bristol, VT where there is a Drikung Dzogchen center.
So if anyone is interested in forming a small Dharma household in NH let me know. Ok, sorry for the interuption.