You've received some good feedback, especially from David. I'm a lawyer and while I can't give you legal advice, I will offer a few comments that I hope can be helpful.
I practice law with a strong sense of ethics and a love for the law. Having said that, the legal system is not always set up for just and ethical results. IN an old story, it's said that a litigant once complained to old Judge Cardozo that he was not getting justice. "Justice?" responded the future Justice Cardozo, "in the courts you get law!"
The law can be an ass. So, be careful with your desire to bring metta to the plaintiff, as it is likely that his lawyer is going to try to hit you (and your carrier) for as big a judgment as he can obtain. Most plaintiff's lawyers are paid on a contingent fee, and it is usually 30-40 percent of the judgment or settlement. Having said that, a case as you describe may be ripe for settlement, as there are possibly bad facts on both sides of the case. It is the law in some states that pedestrians always have a right of way, and it can be found as per se negligence if an auto hits a pedestrian. In some states, the comparative negligence of the plaintiff can reduce or deny a judgment's value, for example, an intoxicated pedestrian in a roadway.
Trust your lawyer. He knows the negligence and contributory negligence laws of your state. He has read the police report, and he understands the good and bad facts of your case. He may have interviewed one of the police officers, and has a sense of how the police testimony will come out. He's reviewed the medical records of the plaintiff, and has an idea of the nature and extent of the injuries. He also knows the plaintiff's attorney, and knows whether this lawyer can try a case, or not, and whether the opposing lawyer settles most of his cases. He's likely also had some tentative conversations about what it would take to settle the case. He is working for the insurance carrier, but he also has a real incentive to get the settlement or resolution of the case on the most favorable terms possible.
If you have any questions about how to respond with metta and with ethics about your case, please bring these questions to your lawyer. Don't contact the plaintiff, and don't discuss having a fundraiser for his medical bills. As the law is an ass sometimes, be very careful about doing or saying anything that the opposing lawyer will take as an admission of liability.