Sexual Misconduct

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Re: Sexual Misconduct

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Kammalakkhano , bhikkhave, bālo, kammalakkhano pandito, apadānasobhanī paññāti
(The fool is characterized by his/her actions/the wise one is characterized by his/her actions/Wisdom shines forth in behaviour.)
(AN 3.2 Lakkhana Sutta)

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Re: Sexual Misconduct

Postby VeganLiz » Fri Feb 25, 2011 3:05 am

"My actions are my only true belongings." Thich Nhat Hanh

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Re: Sexual Misconduct

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Kammalakkhano , bhikkhave, bālo, kammalakkhano pandito, apadānasobhanī paññāti
(The fool is characterized by his/her actions/the wise one is characterized by his/her actions/Wisdom shines forth in behaviour.)
(AN 3.2 Lakkhana Sutta)

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Re: Sexual Misconduct

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Kammalakkhano , bhikkhave, bālo, kammalakkhano pandito, apadānasobhanī paññāti
(The fool is characterized by his/her actions/the wise one is characterized by his/her actions/Wisdom shines forth in behaviour.)
(AN 3.2 Lakkhana Sutta)

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Re: Sexual Misconduct

Postby phil » Fri Feb 25, 2011 3:27 am

By the way, Vegan Liz. I understand that you asked about this in utter sincerity and showing trust of strangers, so I apologize if I seem to be facetious above. I take the issue seriously, but feel writing with humour about sex is the best way to write about it. But thank you for turning to this community with your question. :smile:
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(The fool is characterized by his/her actions/the wise one is characterized by his/her actions/Wisdom shines forth in behaviour.)
(AN 3.2 Lakkhana Sutta)

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Re: Sexual Misconduct

Postby phil » Fri Feb 25, 2011 3:33 am

Kammalakkhano , bhikkhave, bālo, kammalakkhano pandito, apadānasobhanī paññāti
(The fool is characterized by his/her actions/the wise one is characterized by his/her actions/Wisdom shines forth in behaviour.)
(AN 3.2 Lakkhana Sutta)

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Re: Sexual Misconduct

Postby VeganLiz » Fri Feb 25, 2011 4:00 am

Hi Phil,

Having a sense of humor regarding sex is usually fine with me, unless it's making light of issues such as rape (which you were not, of course).

I am new to sex and just thought I'd ask about sexual misconduct. I'm not super young, I put it off for a long time because I was considering waiting until marriage for sometime. I feel differently about this now.

:smile:
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Re: Sexual Misconduct

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Kammalakkhano , bhikkhave, bālo, kammalakkhano pandito, apadānasobhanī paññāti
(The fool is characterized by his/her actions/the wise one is characterized by his/her actions/Wisdom shines forth in behaviour.)
(AN 3.2 Lakkhana Sutta)

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Re: Sexual Misconduct

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“No lists of things to be done. The day providential to itself. The hour. There is no later. This is later. All things of grace and beauty such that one holds them to one's heart have a common provenance in pain. Their birth in grief and ashes.”
- Cormac McCarthy, The Road

Learn this from the waters:
in mountain clefts and chasms,
loud gush the streamlets,
but great rivers flow silently.
- Sutta Nipata 3.725

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Re: Sexual Misconduct

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Kammalakkhano , bhikkhave, bālo, kammalakkhano pandito, apadānasobhanī paññāti
(The fool is characterized by his/her actions/the wise one is characterized by his/her actions/Wisdom shines forth in behaviour.)
(AN 3.2 Lakkhana Sutta)

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Re: Sexual Misconduct

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Re: Sexual Misconduct

Postby Bhikkhu Pesala » Fri Feb 25, 2011 7:48 pm

Even having consensual sex with a woman or man who has had too much to drink is sexual misconduct. I'm not talking about someone who is blind drunk and unable to consent, which is already regarded as rape, but to taking advantage of someone who's moral compass is lost after a few too many drinks.

In this case the woman was married, but even if she had not been, I would say that the man was blameworthy for having casual sex in these circumstances. Most traditional Buddhists would consider casual sex of any kind as sexual misconduct anyway, regardless of the eligibility of the sexual partner.

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Re: Sexual Misconduct

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Kammalakkhano , bhikkhave, bālo, kammalakkhano pandito, apadānasobhanī paññāti
(The fool is characterized by his/her actions/the wise one is characterized by his/her actions/Wisdom shines forth in behaviour.)
(AN 3.2 Lakkhana Sutta)

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Re: Sexual Misconduct

Postby adeh » Sat Feb 26, 2011 12:05 am

From 'In the Buddha's Word' Bhikkhu Bodhi, p. 376: Lay stream-enterers and once-returners, however, are not necessarily celibate. In the sutta the Buddha describes them as 'lay followers....clothed in white, enjoying sensual pleasures, who carry out my instruction, respond to my advice, have gone beyond doubt, become free from perplexity, gained intrepidity, and become independent of others in the Teachers dispensation.' Thus, while some steam-enterers and once-returners may observe celibacy, this is by no means typical of these two classes.
The sutta quoted is MN 73.

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