Nemo wrote:I think it would be hard to stay sane. The constant social pressure to conform to being something that you are not, the lack of acceptance and getting stink eye when you go out to get a cup of coffee. I would probably become fixated on my sexual identity and want to yell it from the rooftops. Not that I'm not fixated on it actually, only in a more "acceptable" manner. I was celibate for a time. That gets really strange after a year or so. I really experienced a weird feeling where I didn't know who I was sometimes minus the sexual component.
How do you keep yourself sane Sara? Oh, and what are your romantic prospects like? It must be really complicated.
And I take Refuge in the Buddha, Dharma, and Sangha, the most important of which is my Spouse.
She keeps me sane,
As does my sitting, and taking refuge in the Eternal,
and calling and talking to monks, reading Dharma books, and talks,
and listening to Dharma talks.
And importantly, what keeps me sane is teaching myself to refrain from willful action.
That makes me sane-er rather than the opposite.
As far as my romantic prospects, I am married in an open relationship,
and we have a pretty active lifestyle.
I am Bi, and get hit on by both guys and women.
Being honest about myself both to myself and others and sitting through the fear has been very helpful for my confidence.
So romantic prospects are good I guess.
"Life is full of suffering. AND Life is full of the Eternal
IT IS OUR CHOICE
We can stand in our shadow, and wallow in the darkness,
We can turn around.
It is OUR choice." -Rev. Basil
" ...out of fear, even the good harm one another. " -Rev. Dazui MacPhillamy