It depends of own perception what is percieved.
I think the quote of Guru Rinpoche is clearly showing the example of the empty mind in which all phenomena are not separate and are freed upon arising. Then wholesome (empty) dharmas can be used as all needful help should be used and need not to be rejected or used for quarrels.
Futhermore one should not cheat oneself indeed.
Thank you for your concern.
I just found this by phantom posted. It maybe can explain. http://www.kagyu.org/kagyulineage/buddh ... /cul01.php
“Sentient beings, self and others, enemies and dear ones—all are made by thoughts. It is like seeing a rope and mistaking it for a snake. When we think that the rope is a snake, we are scared, but once we see that we are looking at a rope, our fear dissipates. We have been deluded by our thoughts. Likewise, mentally fabricating self and others, we generate attachment and aversion.” ~Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche