David N. Snyder wrote:
But to get back to the OP; how does she feel about practicing together with some methods common to both traditions, perhaps something like Kabbalah or Jewish meditation along side Buddhist meditation?
Funny you mention that, she wants to do a "Bu Ju" seder: http://www.amazon.com/Haggadah-Jews-Bud ... 0977322122
Again, my wife is pretty liberal, if anything i'm more uncomfortable than she is with it lol, but i'm gonna do it.
The problem is with some of her teachers beliefs, not her, there are lots of positives with these teachers too, I just cannot accommodate their Jewish-exceptional viewpoint in our mixed family. So, i've set the boundaries such that while there can be some interaction, i can't have my kids being educated by them if they go to Hebrew school, etc.
On the idolatry thing, these people definitely
believe it's idolatry and would be horrified if they knew there was an altar in our house, I mean I read up some of these exact comments on their organizations website. Far as I know almost any Orthodox-influenced variation of Judaism I think would view any offering as idolatry, much less ideas like statues being Nirmanakaya manifestations. Personally I find the whole idolatry thing amusing, since there are all kinds of Jewish customs that amount to exactly the same sort of practice, only with non-anthropomorphic symbols- as you mentioned.
in addition, I believe that many American Jewish leaders see Buddhism as serious competition, and this compounds the uncomfortable nature of things - American Buddhism is full of Jewish folks.
So for now, i've set my boundaries and talked about it with her, as always my wife is a wonderful, reasonable person, and hopefully we seem to have sorted things for now..thanks very much for all your advice guys.