You'd probably benefit from taking agar-35 for the restlessness, it helped me with similar probs, balancing the winds calms the mind, the mind rides the winds so applying physiological supports/ methods to affect the subtle body can help tremendously, easier than trying to do it with mind alone. You should try vajra repetition too, it's very simple and helps me a lot in difficult situations to calm down and balance out.
As for fear etc. the best way is to hit it head on and burn right through it, make it an object of meditation and intensify it and then look right at it, what is it ? where does it come from ? where does it go? where does it abide ? does it have shape or color ? etc, and then look at who is doing all this looking, where is the experiencer, what is it, etc., then seeing there's nothing to be found you rest in that and drop all conceptualization. If you can control a forest fire then facing all the little nasty bon fires we face during our daily work and lives becomes easier, as practitioners in this society and day and age I don't think we have much choice but face the crap we have to deal with head on and integrate our daily lives, otherwise there's the danger of compartmentalizing our practice and our daily lives and then we just start a war with the world and ourselves, just my personal opinion. Like in the matrix movie when he jumps into the agents body and takes it over, blows it up, disintegrates it because he knows its real nature is it has no real nature
Yes we all have deep fear and are completely crazy and insecure inside because we are all hanging onto the edge of a cliff deep down inside we aren't sure really exists or not, people need to have their existence constantly confirmed, acknowledged, but we're all completely insecure and screwed up inside because some part of us keeps trying to remind us, life keeps reminding us, of all the cracks in the pavement and the facades, but that's where the light shines through if you look at it, there's no fear there, you've given up trying to put duct tape over all the holes, given up construction, now you can relax.
You should consult namdrol about wether you could benefit from tibetan medicinal compounds for your fear, anxiety, restlessness, etc., they helped me overcome severe anxiety for a few months.
The nonexistence of the transcendence of suffering
is what the protector of the world has taught as the transcendence
Knots tied on space
are untied by space itself.
May I never be seperated from perfect masters in all lives,
and delightfully experiencing the magnificent dharma,
completing all qualities of the stages of the paths
may I quickly attain the state of Vajradhara