flowerbudh wrote:I've found that to truly heal my emotional ails, I have to give [i]myself[i] my undivided attention, instead of other people who won't return it. Why do we crave so much to be recognized? To be loved, even?
Flowerbudh you are saying if you are present you wouldn't crave attention? The focus would be on what you are doing right now rather than what you crave? It's craving that's bugging you right? You'll have to investigate the why, no one will know except you. We all crave things for different reasons because we have different conditioning.
To be loved, as in to be cared for is a basic human need. Babies will fail to thrive if not given proper care, kind touches, kind and caring mirroring with eye contact. I think adults don't drop this need for caring, if we don't get proper care we fail to thrive as well. But love can mean many things. Passionate love, the love of good friends, the love of family, and spiritual love. I am talking about caring kindness like love of family and friends. I remember when I was younger, in my teens my need for friendship was much stronger, not a boyfriend, but just friends to hang around. Girlfriends were so important, it hurt to be alone. Although there was one boy I had a crush on forever, since first grade until I graduated, but he never knew, I was way too shy to tell him
I remember how painful crushes were, I had a couple through my teens and early twenties before I got married, I am really glad I grew out of them.