i need a girlfriend/wife

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yunghung
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i need a girlfriend/wife

Postby yunghung » Fri Oct 25, 2013 9:55 pm

I have a feeling that to become inlightened i need a girlfriend/wife i had a like devine present in a dream last night telling me in some way i need a gf to reach nirvana/enlightment i know about everything about buddhism and about hinduism that they believe in karma riencarnation can have a wife so should i go hindu so i can get a gf?can a buddhist have a gf and reach nirvana?should i go hindu as my new religion?has someone reached enlightment while having a girlfriend? Hes a vid of me explaining the dream i had as best as i could http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=closZIp-oiE ps.they deleted my 2 threads i created so i recreated them :techproblem: stop deleteing my threads! Plz be compassionate

wisdom
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Re: i need a girlfriend/wife

Postby wisdom » Fri Oct 25, 2013 10:12 pm

You can have a wife in Buddhism. Ordained Buddhist Monks can't marry though, but that doesn't prevent you from Enlightenment in any way.

yunghung
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Re: i need a girlfriend/wife

Postby yunghung » Fri Oct 25, 2013 11:07 pm

I think its a distraction having a wife becouse its like an attachment?but can i have a wife while im not a monk?

asunthatneversets
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Re: i need a girlfriend/wife

Postby asunthatneversets » Fri Oct 25, 2013 11:18 pm

There's no necessity to be a monk.

But if you are interested in being part of a structured community which is akin to being a monk, there are tantric [vajrayāna] practitioners called ngakpas [sngags pa], which do marry and are even encouraged to have a sang yum. Ngakpas will even grow their hair long to express a difference between themselves and the traditional monastic lifestyle and requirements. So there are options.

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Re: i need a girlfriend/wife

Postby Jikan » Fri Oct 25, 2013 11:42 pm

yunghung wrote:I have a feeling that to become inlightened i need a girlfriend/wife i had a like devine present in a dream last night telling me in some way i need a gf to reach nirvana/enlightment i know about everything about buddhism and about hinduism that they believe in karma riencarnation can have a wife so should i go hindu so i can get a gf?can a buddhist have a gf and reach nirvana?should i go hindu as my new religion?has someone reached enlightment while having a girlfriend? Hes a vid of me explaining the dream i had as best as i could http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=closZIp-oiE ps.they deleted my 2 threads i created so i recreated them :techproblem: stop deleteing my threads! Plz be compassionate


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