A non-judgmental attitude?

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A non-judgmental attitude?

Postby alfa » Mon Apr 04, 2011 8:21 am

Hi,

In Buddhism, must we be completely non-judgmental? Let's say a person has an explosive temper, and he knows it's bad for his health, bad for people around him, and so on. Only if he condemns it, he'll be able to change it. If he adopts a non-judgmental attitude, would he have the desire to change?

So I am wondering what we must do when confronted with anger, lust etc.. If we judge, we have a problem. If we do not judge, we have a problem. What must be done?

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Re: A non-judgmental attitude?

Postby Ben » Mon Apr 04, 2011 8:51 am

“No lists of things to be done. The day providential to itself. The hour. There is no later. This is later. All things of grace and beauty such that one holds them to one's heart have a common provenance in pain. Their birth in grief and ashes.”
- Cormac McCarthy, The Road

Learn this from the waters:
in mountain clefts and chasms,
loud gush the streamlets,
but great rivers flow silently.
- Sutta Nipata 3.725

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Re: A non-judgmental attitude?

Postby Bhikkhu Pesala » Mon Apr 04, 2011 11:33 am

“Condemnation” sounds like anger and aversion to me. Laying more aversion on top of anger won't help.

“Discernment, discrimination, judgement” are aspects of wisdom. Whether it is discerned in oneself, or in others, anger and aversion are blameworthy, but we should blame the mental state, not the person.

Likewise with lust, delusion, pride, conceit, or other unwholesome mental states. To remove them, first we need to be aware of them, then we need to know that they are harmful and blameworthy.

They all arise from causes. The causes need to be identified and understood, only then can these mental defilements be removed. We cannot remove the mental defilements of others, only our own.

If we can keep our equanimity, when others are losing theirs, we will not get angry so much, and others will be calmed by our presence or kind words.

For more on blame and criticism, see the Venerable Ledi Sayādaw's Dhamma Dīpanī.

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