What is a good approach to dissolving this problem as it leaves me feeling aweful and is clearly a way to relieve anxiety or loneliness as opposed to being a healthy sexual act of any sort.
"The three kinds of feelings, O monks, are impermanent, compounded, dependently arisen, liable to destruction, to evanescence, to fading away, to cessation — namely, pleasant feeling, painful feeling, and neutral feeling."
What use is there conjuring up a feeling that only lasts for a little bit and then goes away, while changing nothing at all? It appears
to clearly be a way relieve anxiety or loneliness, but is it really? If it really does relieve anxiety or loneliness, why do they always come back?