underthetree wrote:With the greatest respect, Huseng, may you never have to deal with the consequences when someone you know decides to 'just leave their family.' What 'immeasurable opportunities' could be opened up by an act of such monstrous selfishness?
When I did it I didn't think it was monstrously selfish.
Maybe you come from a stable family, but I had a very unstable family life. It was quite liberating to leave the hailstorm, so to speak.
Leaving your family frees you from restrictions, expectations and responsibilities, most of which is just samsaric nonsense. Social expectations and such. If you do what society (and consequently your family) tells you to do, you'll sink deeper into samsara.
Yes, the Buddha did it. But a) he was the Buddha, b) he was a prince, and Yasodhara presumably didn't have to get a job stacking shelves at Tesco after he'd left.
Stocking shelves at Tesco and living in a 1st world country as a working class joe/jane might be crap to you, but to much of the rest of the world it is an unattainable dream. It is all really quite relative. The fact that you think it is some horrid destiny to stock shelves at Tesco just goes to show your decadence.
Yes, I have worked minimum wage jobs equivalent to Tesco.
In the third world people work tooth and nail without human rights or a functioning government just to barely scrape by while their kids are forced to work for a few extra rupees. To them working at Tesco for eight hours a day while their kids go to school for free in the west would be a dream.
Leaving your family behind in a country with decent healthcare, social safety nets and guaranteed minimum wage in the global perspective is equivalent to leaving your princess wife behind in a palace.
suggests that the bodhisattva leaves beings but never forgets them in their solitary practice. The motivation to practice is driven by concern for beings. However, if you want to do more than palliative care for beings you need attainments. Attainments only come from serious practice. Serious practice is usually not done by family men or women. Let's be realistic and honest.