Getting Real, Getting Dirty

[Virgo]

In general, I agree with Namdrol. Buddhist women are rare, especially ones you actually want to bring to your bed.

What? Buddhist women are rare? Where are you, on one of the Survivor Island's or something? Many groups are largely women. Now as for whether or not you are attracted to them, that's another issue.

Kirt

Oh, well if you know any who are dedicated tantrikas, are drop-dead gorgeous, are particularly foul-mouthed, have lots of piercings, don't take shit from anyone but are also very loving, kind, and gentle, and strong, oh and preferably drive around in a jacked up truck on 35 inch mud tires like a badd-ass girl, let me know. I'll give you my number for them.

Thanks.

Kevin

[Virgo]

he backtracked a bit when I sarcastically brought it out.

Kirt

I don't backtrack. Rawr!

It was just a generalisation of course, as I stated like three times, meaning that there are many exceptions.
Kevin

[kirtu]

In general, I agree with Namdrol. Buddhist women are rare, especially ones you actually want to bring to your bed.

What? Buddhist women are rare? Where are you, on one of the Survivor Island's or something? Many groups are largely women. Now as for whether or not you are attracted to them, that's another issue.

Kirt

Oh, well if you know any who are dedicated tantrikas, are drop-dead gorgeous, are particularly foul-mouthed, have lots of piercings, don't take shit from anyone but are also very loving, kind, and gentle, and strong, oh and preferably drive around in a jacked up truck on 35 inch mud tires like a badd-ass girl, let me know. I'll give you my number for them.

Generally they're not foul mouthed or drive trucks but just go to NYC and all the rest is met. If you liked guys then the foul mouthed thing would be in workable also in NYC ...

Kirt

[Virgo]

Generally they're not foul mouthed or drive trucks but just go to NYC and all the rest is met. If you liked guys then the foul mouthed thing would be in workable also in NYC ...

Kirt

I'm a not a big fan of cities. The tree to person ratio is too low.

Kevin

[justsit]

Oh, well if you know any who are dedicated tantrikas, are drop-dead gorgeous, are particularly foul-mouthed, have lots of piercings, don't take shit from anyone but are also very loving, kind, and gentle, and strong, oh and preferably drive around in a jacked up truck on 35 inch mud tires like a badd-ass girl, let me know. I'll give you my number for them.

You guys are so easy

[Epistemes]

This thread makes me think that I need to bring protection when I visit a dharma center!

[Jikan]

This thread makes me think that I need to bring protection when I visit a dharma center!

In my experience, it's more like a family event than a singles bar--the relationships you build at the temple feels more like family than anything else. Your mileage may vary.

[Jikan]

Generally they're not foul mouthed or drive trucks but just go to NYC and all the rest is met. If you liked guys then the foul mouthed thing would be in workable also in NYC ...

Kirt

I'm a not a big fan of cities. The tree to person ratio is too low.

Kevin

This might be right up your alley.

http://adirondacktendai.org

[Epistemes]

This thread makes me think that I need to bring protection when I visit a dharma center!

In my experience, it's more like a family event than a singles bar--the relationships you build at the temple feels more like family than anything else. Your mileage may vary.

Sounds like my local parish church. It also sounds like I should treasure my time now...alone.

[Jikan]

That may be so, Epistemes. I meant the comment on family to signify a healthy relationship of care, concern, and not infrequently, playfulness. I've seen a few dysfunctional "families" too though...

[Luke]

When I was on the board of a center once, I brought up the issue of diversity. I pointed out that there was a huge African American university community that we've failed to interact with. The response from several board members: "black people don't practice this kind of Buddhism". When I tried to detangle that with them I was accused of being hostile and censured.

Wow, that quote speaks to heart of matter, which I think is what the long-time members of many sanghas actually think and say behind closed doors when the decisions are made.

However, I haven't seen any overt examples of racism in the sanghas I've visited in Europe, but then again, so few non-white people attend that there's little opportunity to see racism.

[Silent Bob]

If you want a taste of how it feels to be marginalized and ignored because of your race, try spending time with some of the mostly Chinese sanghas in Vancouver.

[Luke]

If you want a taste of how it feels to be marginalized and ignored because of your race, try spending time with some of the mostly Chinese sanghas in Vancouver.

Do they speak English well? If not, then I could see why they don't really want to talk to English speakers.

Do you speak Chinese well? If so and they still ignored you, then that would be pretty bad.

[kirtu]

If you want a taste of how it feels to be marginalized and ignored because of your race, try spending time with some of the mostly Chinese sanghas in Vancouver.

Do they speak English well? If not, then I could see why they don't really want to talk to English speakers.

Do you speak Chinese well? If so and they still ignored you, then that would be pretty bad.

In general it is still the case that most Asian sangha groups find it unusual for westerners to come and attend. This is changing. Slowly. The Tibetans have been seeing westerners in their midst for close to two decades now in groups in the west. It's still unusual to many of them. There have been westerners going to Buddhist Churches of America since around WW II - same story (although it does depend now on where you are, so there is improvement there). Some westerners have been going to Chinese temples since the 60's (don't know about in Vancouver itself though).

Kirt

[Virgo]

You guys are so easy

Kevin

[Virgo]

This might be right up your alley.

http://adirondacktendai.org

Cool. Thanks Jikan.

Kevin

[Jikan]

No probalo. Although if you're in Columbia County, the main Tendai temple near Chatham might be closer to you...

[Virgo]

No probalo. Although if you're in Columbia County, the main Tendai temple near Chatham might be closer to you...

I've driven by the temple but have never visited. I'm in Greene County, NY, a few hundred feet from the border with Columbia. The main temple is on the way out to Massachusetts, if I take the back way.

Kevn