rory wrote:why I left; Confucian culture. I was constantly asked by the friendly 1 generation Chinese members are you married; do you have children & they looked shocked when I said, no.
Are those attitudes really a result of Confucianism or of Chinese culture? My sister who is straight and single and in her 30s lives in the US and she gets very annoyed when she is asked those same questions by her ordinary American coworkers. I can understand how such questions might bother you, but it doesn't sound like the people at the temple who asked you those questions meant them in an unkind way.
And anyway, if you really want to avoid any Chinese Confucian influences of any kind, why don't you just try Tibetan Buddhism or Theravada?
I mentioned some great living Buddhist masters in my previous posts, but you never commented on them. Do you think that Pema Chodron "sold out to the man"?
rory wrote:It's pretty grim as a woman to think Buddhism sold out on radical non-discrimination , the radical view of Gautama, to co-exist with the status quo & the low position of women. The demand for equality for women in Buddhism came from the West. It's Greek philosophy and Roman law that led to women having so many rights as early as 200 C.E. and then again in the late 19th cent when Christian ideas were discarded.
But aren't Christians generally more hostile toward gay people? Or is that just a stereotype?
rory wrote:But years later I've read Greek philosophy: Heraclitus everything is flux Democritus, Pythagoras, Epicurus etc & I've found everything in Buddhism there. It's better for women, I don't have to deal with male hierarchical institutions or the hypocrisy.
Hmm, it seems that you are assuming that any
male leader is a bad leader. That sounds just as biased to me as the bias that you are fighting against. There have been plenty of bad or unethical female leaders in world history, as well. Although I can understand how you might personally feel more comfortable with female leaders.