Johnny Dangerous wrote:Of course, and for most practitioners, if they practice effectively at all, I think it becomes fairly obvious when things are getting out of hand in terms of sexual desire. Frankly when you are married and have children, getting too much sex is fairly unlikely anyway, though overabundance of sexual desire isn't necessarily.
There's still the old practice of laity taking 8 precepts for a day and night, and not having sex on certain days (like Buddhajayanti and certain days on the lunar cycle: 8, 14, 15, 23, 29 and 30). In some countries this is still readily encouraged and practiced.
The real issue is that in the hypersexualized west people want their Buddhism along with a great sex life, and not feel uneasy about the latter when they read all this literature which encourages moderation and even celibacy at least once in awhile.
You have the liberty to have a passionate sex life, but at the very least as a Buddhist acknowledge that the Buddha encouraged people to reign in their desires and to try not to act upon them.