YOU CANNOT POST. OUR WEB HOSTING COMPANY DECIDED TO MOVE THE SERVER TO ANOTHER LOCATION. IN THE MEANTIME, YOU CAN VIEW THIS VERSION WHICH DOES NOT ALLOW POSTING AND WILL NOT SAVE ANYTHING YOU DO ONCE THE OTHER SERVER GOES ONLINE.

Compassion Vs real Practice - Dhamma Wheel

Compassion Vs real Practice

A discussion on all aspects of Theravāda Buddhism
User avatar
BlueLotus
Posts: 393
Joined: Mon Aug 29, 2011 7:46 am

Compassion Vs real Practice

Postby BlueLotus » Wed Oct 03, 2012 12:47 pm

I have this question about compassion. What if you have old parent to look after who is depend on you to do things. Because you want to look him after you cannot ordain or practice a lot of meditation. So I see two things

1) You have compassion and want to look after
2) Because of 1, your spiritual goal is obstructing.

What should someone do in this situation?

User avatar
reflection
Posts: 1116
Joined: Wed Mar 30, 2011 9:27 pm

Re: Compassion Vs real Practice

Postby reflection » Wed Oct 03, 2012 12:51 pm

I don't see how compassion could not be part of the practice. I'd take care of my parents as practice.

santa100
Posts: 2673
Joined: Fri Jun 10, 2011 10:55 pm

Re: Compassion Vs real Practice

Postby santa100 » Wed Oct 03, 2012 12:59 pm

"2) Because of 1, your spiritual goal is obstructing"

Correction:

"2) Because of 1, your spiritual training is enhancing"

User avatar
BlueLotus
Posts: 393
Joined: Mon Aug 29, 2011 7:46 am

Re: Compassion Vs real Practice

Postby BlueLotus » Wed Oct 03, 2012 1:03 pm

I know what you mean but what if you are unable to ordain or go for long retreats (not at least 7 days).

User avatar
Hanzze
Posts: 1906
Joined: Mon Oct 04, 2010 12:47 pm
Location: Cambodia

Re: Compassion Vs real Practice

Postby Hanzze » Wed Oct 03, 2012 1:42 pm

Last edited by Hanzze on Thu Oct 04, 2012 2:56 am, edited 2 times in total.
Just that! *smile*


BUT! it is important to become a real Buddhist first. Like Punna did: Nate sante baram sokham _()_

santa100
Posts: 2673
Joined: Fri Jun 10, 2011 10:55 pm

Re: Compassion Vs real Practice

Postby santa100 » Wed Oct 03, 2012 2:03 pm

BlueLotus wrote:
"I know what you mean but what if you are unable to ordain or go for long retreats (not at least 7 days)."

Instead of a 7-day retreat or a 3-month retreat away from home, how about a full 365-day retreat at home? Are you still breathing while taking care of your parents? If yes, then that's Anapanasati training right there. Are you keeping track of the 4 foundations of body, feeling, mind, and phenomena while taking care of your parents? If yes, then that's Satipatthana training right there. Are you developing a sense of loving kindness, compassion, joy, and equanimity while taking care of your parents? If yes, then that's Brahmaviharas training right there..

User avatar
Cittasanto
Posts: 6524
Joined: Tue Dec 30, 2008 10:31 pm
Location: Ellan Vannin
Contact:

Re: Compassion Vs real Practice

Postby Cittasanto » Wed Oct 03, 2012 8:08 pm



He who knows only his own side of the case knows little of that. His reasons may be good, and no one may have been able to refute them.
But if he is equally unable to refute the reasons on the opposite side, if he does not so much as know what they are, he has no ground for preferring either opinion …
...
He must be able to hear them from persons who actually believe them … he must know them in their most plausible and persuasive form.

rowyourboat
Posts: 1952
Joined: Sat Jan 03, 2009 5:29 pm
Location: London, UK

Re: Compassion Vs real Practice

Postby rowyourboat » Wed Oct 03, 2012 9:45 pm

Keep your precepts. Have metta in your mindfulness, which you try to maintain all the time.

Rub away your defilements, develop your wholesome qualities.

Then watch impermanence when your metta and mindfulness is established!

There's your samatha and vipassana -all you need for enlightenment.

Practice doesn't happen only on a cushion. Most of your practice will happen outside of retreat setting anyway.

with metta

Matheesha
With Metta

Karuna
Mudita
& Upekkha

befriend
Posts: 1075
Joined: Thu Jun 09, 2011 11:39 am

Re: Compassion Vs real Practice

Postby befriend » Wed Oct 03, 2012 11:45 pm

dipa ma meditated while doing household chores and look how much progress she made. she was not a nun.
nothing can destroy a man who has lived a pure life

pegembara
Posts: 1140
Joined: Tue Oct 13, 2009 8:39 am

Re: Compassion Vs real Practice

Postby pegembara » Thu Oct 04, 2012 5:52 am

And what is right speech? Abstaining from lying, from divisive speech, from abusive speech, & from idle chatter: This is called right speech.

User avatar
BlueLotus
Posts: 393
Joined: Mon Aug 29, 2011 7:46 am

Re: Compassion Vs real Practice

Postby BlueLotus » Thu Oct 04, 2012 12:07 pm


User avatar
BlueLotus
Posts: 393
Joined: Mon Aug 29, 2011 7:46 am

Re: Compassion Vs real Practice

Postby BlueLotus » Thu Oct 04, 2012 12:08 pm

I read your posts and I know this thought I had was incorrect. Arose because delusion in my own mind. Thanks to you all. :bow:


Return to “General Theravāda discussion”

Who is online

Users browsing this forum: No registered users and 32 guests

Google Saffron, Theravada Search Engine