Sherlock wrote:Huseng, some pre-industrial cultures were often rather promiscuous and with the lack of contraception besides abortion, STDs and unwanted children were also not uncommon. This happened in spite of the rhetoric of celibacy and chastity.
I'm well aware of that, though my concern is with youth, not adults. Having your daughters remain chaste, even if it means keeping them away from beer keg parties that they really want to attend, might save them a lot of self-imposed misery in the long-run.
With adults it is different and they're expected to take care of themselves. People will have affairs regardless of what religion or the state says. Still, I don't think liberal encouragement of such activities will lead to social harmony.
Widespread "chastity" before marriage in the industrial world occupied a fairly brief time period from the late Victorian era to the 1960s (the Sexual Revolution was really more about increased availability of contraception than hippie free love); even then some strange things like women going to doctors to get masturbated were common.
That's eurocentric. Throughout Asia it has been different. For one thing peoples in various countries like India and elsewhere were often in unions shortly before or after puberty. That meant they had an outlet rather than having to seek out partners ahead of marriage or remain without until marriage maybe a decade later.
Chastity, specifically for women, has been upheld as a virtue throughout East Asia, at least among certain segments of societies. The prostitutes obviously weren't included in that realm, but nevertheless the idea has been there. In traditional Confucian society there is the idea that "when men and women exchange things they do not get close" [男女授受不親], which goes back into very ancient times.
There is value to such thinking in the sense that intimacy between heterosexual men and women often leads to problems which can affect the greater community. In premodern times this was potentially fatal where the well-being of everyone depended on everyone living and working together in reasonable harmony. In the present day where we're all anonymous faces in urban environments, it doesn't really matter so much because community has lost its original function and meaning.
If promiscuous behavior was ultimately beneficial to a complex human society, I think natural selection would have eliminated it sometime in the last number of centuries. However, what we see in many complex societies throughout history is efforts to preserve the chastity of girls from "proper families" as well as prevent married men and women from entering into problematic relationships. That doesn't mean monogamy necessarily, but there has always been limits to who you can become intimate with and perhaps for good reason.
I don't agree that "loose morals" is the main reason why modernity is bad for practice. Generally modern people are as moral as ancient people even if they might disagree on certain points.
Relativistic morality is problematic because it is increasingly leading to social ills that didn't seem to exist before. Now you can compare now to Victorian England and its "angel makers" (abortionists) and say otherwise, but that's just one culture, and not a very noble one anyway.