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justin.hudgins wrote:I'm not married nor do I have a regular job, so I'm unfamiliar with the difficulties presented by either of those, but why not just reschedule your vacation and attend Rinpoche's retreats? You spend a decent amount of time with your wife anyway and who knows when you'll next have the opportunity to spend time with Rinpoche.
Sönam wrote:Rinpoche did often speaks about that kind of circumstances ... even recently!
padma norbu wrote:Sönam wrote:Rinpoche did often speaks about that kind of circumstances ... even recently!
What did he say? I am familiar with the idea that when the guru is close, we should stay close, but I am also trying to work with circumstances and not be selfish about it.
PadmaVonSamba wrote:The more I had to give up, even dharma-related events, the more frustrated and resentful I felt.
The more and resentful I felt, the more I had to look at where those feeling came from.
The more I looked at where those feeling came from, the more I saw it was based on attachment
and when I looked at that attachment I saw it all came down to clinging to "me".
"Why should I have to give up these precious, hard to find teachings, this one-to-one contact with a great teacher,
which will no doubt turn me into an enlightened bodhisattva who will then benefit uncountable suffering sentient beings
just because I have to do some stupid bullshit that somebody else wants?"
That is when I realize how much patience and generosity it takes, and how much clinging I have to let go of.
Years later, it has paid off, and I am told , 'why don't you go off to that buddhist thing you were talking about,
while I go visit my folks?"
and now everybody is happy.