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When a person is coming to the end of his life...

Postby M.Takoda » Fri Jun 22, 2012 2:17 am

A warm hello to everyone.

I have been pondering on these questions for the last few days.

According to the teachings found in Theravada Buddhism, Is there any way to mentally and emotionally prepare for death?

When a person is coming to the end of his life because of a terminal illness,is there any recommended meditations or sutta readings to help a person facing death?

Is there any way to ease a person’s mental suffering, for example when it comes to fearing death itself?


Kind Regards to all.

:namaste:

Mike

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Postby retrofuturist » Fri Jun 22, 2012 2:19 am

Greetings Mike,

Whilst it will be possible for people to give generic answers within a Theravadin perspective, I'd just like to clarify something with you first...

- Is this a real or upcoming situation you're facing? (or are you asking generally / hypothetically?)
- Assuming real, is the person in question Buddhist?

A dying person who is "born-and-bred" Theravadin, is likely to have different requirements (for want of a better word) than an atheist, a Christian, a Jain etc.

Metta,
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Postby Ben » Fri Jun 22, 2012 2:59 am

Greetings M.Takoda,

Each year I give a talk to the students at the christian school where I work on the Buddhist perspective on death and dying.
One year, as part of my talk, I presented a letter that Ajahn Chah wrote to an elderly English disciple who was dying.
Living with the Cobra: http://www.ajahnchah.org/book/Living_With_Cobra1.php

And there are, of course, many discourses in the suttas and commentarial literature on the subject of death, the recollections of death, and its inevitable approach.
kind regards,

Ben
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Postby pegembara » Fri Jun 22, 2012 5:59 am

And what is right speech? Abstaining from lying, from divisive speech, from abusive speech, & from idle chatter: This is called right speech.

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Postby ringo » Fri Jun 22, 2012 6:24 pm

Hello,

Here (http://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka ... .than.html) is the beautiful Anathapindikovada Sutta - instructions from Venerable Sariputta to a dying Anathapindika. This Sutta touches me every time I read it.

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Postby marc108 » Fri Jun 22, 2012 8:02 pm

Beyond Coping: A Study Guide on Aging, Illness, Death, & Separation
http://dhammatalks.org/ebook_index.html#beyond_coping

A Refuge from Death. - A collection of 20 Dhamma talks, chants, sutta readings and guided meditations for listening as one approaches death.
http://dhammatalks.org/mp3_collections_index.html#death
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Postby Son » Thu Jun 28, 2012 10:59 am

A seed sleeps in soil.
It's cold and alone, hopeless.
Until it blooms above.

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Postby Bunjers » Sat Jun 30, 2012 12:12 am

Discussion about death with Ayya Khema
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pLugPA2O ... F4C7DFAA11
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Postby starter » Sun Jul 01, 2012 3:57 pm

AN 4.184
PTS: A ii 173
Abhaya Sutta: Fearless
translated from the Pali by
Thanissaro Bhikkhu
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"And who is the person who, subject to death, is not afraid or in terror of death?

"There is the case of the person who has abandoned passion, desire, fondness, thirst, fever, and craving for sensuality. Then he comes down with a serious disease. As he comes down with a serious disease, the thought does not occur to him, 'O, those beloved sensual pleasures will be taken from me, and I will be taken from them!' He does not grieve, is not tormented; does not weep, beat his breast, or grow delirious. This is a person who, subject to death, is not afraid or in terror of death.

"Furthermore, there is the case of the person who has abandoned passion, desire, fondness, thirst, fever, and craving for the body. Then he comes down with a serious disease. As he comes down with a serious disease, the thought does not occur to him, 'O, my beloved body will be taken from me, and I will be taken from my body!' He does not grieve, is not tormented; does not weep, beat his breast, or grow delirious. This, too, is a person who, subject to death, is not afraid or in terror of death.

"Furthermore, there is the case of the person who has done what is good, has done what is skillful, has given protection to those in fear, and has not done what is evil, savage, or cruel. Then he comes down with a serious disease. As he comes down with a serious disease, the thought occurs to him, 'I have done what is good, have done what is skillful, have given protection to those in fear, and I have not done what is evil, savage, or cruel. To the extent that there is a destination for those who have done what is good, what is skillful, have given protection to those in fear, and have not done what is evil, savage, or cruel, that's where I'm headed after death.' He does not grieve, is not tormented; does not weep, beat his breast, or grow delirious. This, too, is a person who, subject to death, is not afraid or in terror of death.

"Furthermore, there is the case of the person who has no doubt or perplexity, who has arrived at certainty with regard to the True Dhamma. Then he comes down with a serious disease. As he comes down with a serious disease, the thought occurs to him, 'I have no doubt or perplexity. I have arrived at certainty with regard to the True Dhamma.' He does not grieve, is not tormented; does not weep, beat his breast, or grow delirious. This, too, is a person who, subject to death, is not afraid or in terror of death.

"These, brahman, are four people who, subject to death, are not afraid or in terror of death."

May we all arrive at the true Dhamma and become fearless. Metta to all,

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Postby waimengwan » Tue Jul 24, 2012 4:50 pm

It is very important to keep them happy and have a calm mind and to get them to think of virtuous things, their teachers, dharma work etc etc.
I was reading the Lamrim and there is this thing called 'Throwing Karma' is one's last thoughts, if it is virtuous then one will go to a good rebirth and it is is not then the converse will happen.

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Postby manas » Wed Jul 25, 2012 5:30 am

I think it is good to think about & prepare for this eventuality. I have decided that if I were in a situation where death was impending in a very short space of time, that I would take refuge in mindfulness of the body. If able to do so with a calm mind, to observe the rising and falling of the breath to it's actual cessation for this current body - ie, the final exhalation - would be a wonderful meditation, if it could be done in the right frame of mind. But if my mind was afraid, I would focus more on my faith & conviction in the Buddha, Dhamma and Sangha in the final moments, to steady & calm the mind.

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Then the Blessed One, picking up a tiny bit of dust with the tip of his fingernail, said to the monk, "There isn't even this much form...feeling...
perception...fabrications...consciousness that is constant, lasting, eternal, not subject to change, that will stay just as it is as long as eternity."

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Postby waimengwan » Wed Jul 25, 2012 8:40 pm

Yes this trigger a teaching that Rinpoche gave us about why we should start early in our life to do dharma or engage in dharma activities. As if we spent 50 years for most people, just doing samsaric things and worldly stuff, our last thought will most likely be related to delusions and not virtuous thoughts. Plus the fact that if we wait till we are retired either we might get there or at that age we dont have the energy to engage in dharma properly and after 50 years of habituations of not engaging in dharma why would our mind suddenly shift? That mind shift towards dharma will be hard to after so many years of habituations.

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Postby starter » Sat Jul 28, 2012 2:56 pm

When one is really coming to the end of his life, the most important thing for him is to really comprehend the meaning of "refuge", the true meaning of taking the Buddha (the only one -- Gautama Buddha), the Dhamma (Gautama Buddha's teachings), and the Sangha (the community of the noble ones enlightened by the Dhamma) as his refuge. He'd better repeatedly recite the following with true understanding:

I take Gautama Buddha as my refuge;

I take Gautama Buddha's Dhamma as my refuge;

I take the noble Sangha as my refuge.

May we all find the true refuge and peace. Metta to all!


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