disjointed wrote:how do Buddhists go about guiding situations without resorting to intimidation or something to reign in confused people with big egos?
disjointed wrote:So the team I've been assigned to has many people of differing capacities, some people have done research and some haven't and so have more or less to contribute in meetings.
We have not formally picked team leaders as suggested and our meetings have not led anywhere productive yet because the people that are being assertive and taking control of the discussion in general have the least to contribute.
Because I have the most research in the subject and have the most experience with these conferences, I tried to direct the meeting towards what actually needs to be discussed and open up the room for people to speak.
Instead of my intended result, the people I wanted to speak felt put on the spot and didn't speak much, and the assertive know nothings who literally did not know the basics of the subject have privately criticized me for dominating the "conversation".
palchi wrote:Finally, don't assume that people who are no researchers don't have anything to contribute. In all teams you have people with a variety of competencies, views and personalities. They all have something important to contribute. And they will, if they are in an environment where they feel valued and accepted.
disjointed wrote:palchi wrote:Finally, don't assume that people who are no researchers don't have anything to contribute. In all teams you have people with a variety of competencies, views and personalities. They all have something important to contribute. And they will, if they are in an environment where they feel valued and accepted.
In this case the whole purpose of meeting is to coordinate research for presenting. Since they don't know the research, they can't possibly know how to present it. I think maybe their plan is to push and shove their way to the front and make it seem like they supervised everyone elses' work while not doing any of their own. This whole thing will be over in a few days, conference will last three days. Next year they just won't be invited and the spotlight can't make them go crazy again.
Some of these group management techniques I've never heard of. Next year I'll make sure I'm officially in control of the meetings and may try some of them. This all makes me wonder if I should have asserted control of the group from the beginning and intimidated them into submission. Things would have been better for them and everyone else I think.
householder wrote:I dunno - sounds very similar to our team meetings, I work in public education. Personally, I have really thought about my own situation and I don't believe I am engaged in "right livelihood." - how bout you?
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