Yudron wrote:Yes, that is how we look at things here, and --if it really is manipulative--as an American Feminist I certainly agree. I'd like to point out that it is not uncommonly a female disciple that is initiating things. Culturally, the lama would not see it as "using his position to convince students," he would just see it as an invitation for a mutually enjoyable encounter.
Well I am sure that has happened. But I reckon it's a lot less common than the other way around.
Even if a teacher has a student who makes it clear they are sexually available – he should proceed with extreme caution. In my twenties, I was an associate professor at a regional college for a few years and there were several occasions when some of my students would not have required much persuasion to get into bed. I was single and not much older than they but, realistically, it was just something that I could not countenance. I had a duty to keep it professional. It would have upset the whole teaching dynamic. I could not have been fired for it but I don’t think I would have got much support from my colleagues or my other students either. I don’t see the relationship between a Buddhist teacher and a student to be different in that regard.