When you try to share dharma with others, do you ever ask yourself:
"Am I inspiring people to practice good dhamma, or am I demoralizing
them (undercutting their self-esteem), with criticism, negativity, and a lack of patience or discernment?"
"Am I inspiring people to practice good dharma, or am I flattering
them (exhorting their pride) by only saying pleasant and emotionally-supportive things, without pointing out what's wrong & right or what's true & false?"
"Am I inspiring people to practice good dharma, or am I ignoring
them, because I think they
are too stupid to learn, when the reality is that I
am too stupid to teach?"