"And this is my own opinion, I think those young Tibetan children would be better off brought up in China with a decent education then stuck in India with no escape and a dead end future."
Maybe look into the Chinese situation a little more. That decent education you describe is true for pockets of that community, and the future for many if not most young Chinese is one of industrial hardship, in some or other manufacturing concern. They're not having the greatest of times either.
China didn't take over Tibet on a principled civilising mission. China took over Tibet partly in service of settling an historical feud, partly for the realpolitik aim of buffering their border - China entered the Korean war for the same reason at the beginning of the decade - partly driven by ideological stupidity and the mission to spread the word of Mao, partly for acquisition of land and resources. Since doing so, their record is atrocious, both to people and the environment. This is entirely unsurprisin. Essentially, what China is doing here is no different to what Leopold of Belgium did to the Congo - had it been done 100 years ago, most people would have passed it by. However times have changed, marginally, and we no longer automatically accept the premise that "the wogs need educating" as being a valid justification for loss of autonomy and self-rule, and we also expect our barbarity to be more discreet.
Secondly, whether you think well of Tibetans in India or not, they have taken a principled stance in favor of real autonomy. They're been trying to maintain a discrete cultural core, rather than accept becoming third-rate indigenous people in the Chinese hierarchy, whereas Tibetans in the TAR are at real risk of occupying the same status in China as Native Americans do in the US. You may not like that cultural core, and there are components of it that urgently need modernising, but for Tibetans in the TAR, the cultural core that is held intact in India is a vital touchstone, as their status and quality of life is eroded on all other fronts.
The question for Tibetans outside the TAR, is how to transition to modernity, remain intact as a world culture, and not break the bonds with the TAR. That transition to modernity deserves support, and critical discussion is a form of support. Simply acceding to the Chinese programme is the worst of all possible outcomes. If your real concern is the quality of education accessible by Tibetans in India, consider the fact that they are in India. Indian education is therefore available to them, and many are moving towards it.
I started this thread thinking that those posting about Chinese abuses were reacting defensively. I'm starting to think that's not the case. There are a lot of assumptions underlying this from people posting here that are never actually articulated.