gregkavarnos wrote:1. The Buddha said life is suffering. He didn't say "alternative" family structures are suffering and "traditional" family structures are joy.
Sure, but most people don't actually follow what the Buddha taught as the optimal lifestyle: give up family, sex, desires and go practice and die in a cave unknown to the world.
Still, in Mahāyāna we have ideas about positively benefiting beings while actively engaged in the world. In this respect, I think we can identify generally suitable social arrangements which make the best out of a bad situation, which I've attempted to outline above.
I feel that too much of it has to do with projection/generalising based on your past experience, it just doesn't work like that.
Oh, we can get down to the stats, too, about how single parent households produce more problematic kids and other such more objective bits of information.
I am getting the feeling that you are so hell bent on making your point that you are not listening to other peoples description of their experience (read suffering).
Funny I often get the sense liberal western Buddhist types are unwilling to listen to my views before calling me bigoted or some other such pejorative.