Wow! So many meetings. Then you need no telephone.
We had one meeting every wednesday evening - but kept some telephonenumbers in the pocket for the case of emergency. If anyone was likely to start drinking, he should have called BEFORE.
But this wasn't so easy. Most freaks didn't call before but afterwords.
To talk about it afterwords was also helpful but much more dangerous for the health.
To keep in topic: i think it is not possible (or at least not good) to adjudicate upon a person or a relationship before it has started. If the sympathy is very big this has a reason. If you don't want to become a monk, then you should keep your mind open for her.
But to be open means to face all coming possibilities. It mustn't become a wonderful honeymoon. Keep open to realize what ever may be. I think this is the best.
The pure love from heart to heart should not be a tabu.
Only my humble opinion.