(14) When we hear only language that is foul and abusive,
This is the wheel of sharp weapons returning
Full circle upon us from wrongs we have done.
Till now we have said many things without thinking;
We have slandered and caused many friendships to end.
Hereafter let’s censure all thoughtless remarks.
(77) Someone gives us advice from the depths of his heart,
Which is for our own good, but is harsh to our ears,
And with anger we view him as if he’s our foe.
Yet when someone without any true feelings for us
Deceitfully tells us what we like to hear,
With no taste or discernment we’re kind in return.
(81) We don’t pay attention to what others tell us;
We’re a trial to be with; we strain others’ nerves.
Our feelings are hurt at the slightest remark,
And we hold grudges strongly – we never forgive.
Trample him, trample him, dance on the head
Of this treacherous concept of selfish concern.
Tear out the heart of this self-centered butcher
Who slaughters our chance to gain final release
Drew wrote:I have read that if a mother has a baby in a field and leaves it for dead . . . She is not required by law to care for the baby.
Huh? Yes, there is a law against neglect and abandonment of children.
Drew wrote:Honest feedback may include Magic kisses or reactions that you are having a pity party. Accept all potential outcomes.
Drew wrote:How does the judging others for their judgments of you help you?
Drew wrote:"I disregard and ignore such reactions, "
Your post above belies your words.
Drew wrote:I did not presume anything other than reading what you said and you described them yourself as "incidents you have had"
If you had truly disregarded and ignored, there would be no incidents.
padma norbu wrote:I honestly thought the topic was quite interesting and helpful. Dharma hardasses are a bit of a problem, imo. They certainly aren't limited to this forum. They are everywhere about, little helpful pixies who seem to get off on criticizing others in that helpful guru-like way. I thought considering these ideas might be helpful to some. For me, personally, if I was the sort of person that thought I was doling out no-bs, tough love, good solid advice and I read this, it would make me think twice about how sure I am of my perception of various situations.
In Greece we say "Not everybody that spits on you is your enemy and not everybody that licks* you is your friend".catmoon wrote:As Job noted in the Bible, sometimes it is hard to tell the difference between helpers and circling sharks.
Posting relevant lojong and tonglen texts by enlightened beings like Dharmarakshita is dumping trash??? I must be from another planet?! Beam me up Scotty!!!It's like watching someone dump trash out of their car or something.
gregkavarnos wrote:In Greece we say "Not everybody that spits on you is your enemy and not everybody that licks* you is your friend".catmoon wrote:As Job noted in the Bible, sometimes it is hard to tell the difference between helpers and circling sharks.
*In Greece when we say "licks" in this context it is the same as "sucks up to" in English.Posting relevant lojong and tonglen texts by enlightened beings like Dharmarakshita is dumping trash??? I must be from another planet?! Beam me up Scotty!!!It's like watching someone dump trash out of their car or something.
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