Jikan wrote:If you look at it historically & globally, it's true that women have been overwhelmingly on the receiving end of such abuse. Rory may have overstated matters when she claims it happens only to women, but her point is generally correct.
Undoubtedly. But this does not mean we should ignore incidences of rape, forced marriage and other forms of violence and abuse perpertrated upon men (either by women or other men). I don't think you will find anybody here disagreeing that it happens mainly to women, but you will find people that disagree that it happens solely to women.
Anyway, my original comment referred to forced marriage in a metaphorical sense, as a VERY clear example of where the marriage/wedding/union of ideas is not always a positive thing. There was no attempt on my part to condone forced marriage, quite the contrary.
With the eye of wisdom we discover a lot of anger in us, any amount of jealousy, resentment, ignorance, desire - mountains of emotion whose existence we would never have suspected in ourselves... We recognize that most of the faults we perceive in others are only the mirror of our own negativity, the reflection of our own disturbed feelings... At the same time, we relieve the world around us of the burden of our own negative judgements."
Gendun Rinpoche Heart Advice from a Mahamudra Master