Better to Help than to Blame

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Better to Help than to Blame

Postby BFS » Sat Jul 10, 2010 5:10 pm

"Blaming someone is an unjustified simplification of a complex human situation. We may disapprove of the actions or the behavior of someone, but that person himself is not “useless” or “evil.” No one is intrinsically “this” or “that” within their being. The fundamental nature of consciousness or pure awareness is neither “good” nor “bad”: it is simply conscious. The content of the mind is what colors the mind and this content depends on many factors.

The way people think and behave is the result of a web of causes and conditions that are changing naturally. This can be changed further through specific interventions. People are just more or less confused, more or less “sick,” in their mind. We need to approach people with the understanding that they are human beings who have gone through countless experiences under the influence of countless circumstances, which have conditioned their way of thinking.

Blame often rises from arrogance and lack of compassion. A physician does not blame his patients, even if they behave in ways that harm their health. Instead, he tries to find ways to cure them, or skillfully helps them change their habits. When someone harms others, he should be prevented from doing so with appropriate and measured means and also helped to change his harmful behavior.
Wholesale blame of a person or a group can lead to contempt, prejudice, and eventually hatred.
So, instead of engraving our judgments about people in stone, we should view them--and ourselves as well--as flowing, dynamics streams that always have the genuine potential for change and goodness.

The world has just celebrated the 20th anniversary of Nelson Mandela’s release from jail. When asked how he could make friends with his jailers during his 27 years in detention, he answered: ”By bringing out their good qualities.” And when asked whether he thought that all people had some good within them, he answered: ”There is no doubt whatsoever, provided you are able to arouse the inherent goodness.”

Matthieu Ricard.

http://www.matthieuricard.org/en/index.php/index/
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Re: Better to Help than to Blame

Postby White Lotus » Tue Jul 13, 2010 3:16 pm

:namaste: Noble BFS,
its so easy to nurture hurt, and to blame others when they take advantage for example. would we have done the same were we in their shoes. it is so tempting to nurse a grudge... but gets us into trouble and damages us. it is so tasty, we just want to indulge in it... but this small thing can do untold damage.

best wishes, White Lotus.
in any matters of importance. dont rely on me. i may not know what i am talking about. take what i say as mere speculation. i am not ordained. nor do i have a formal training. i do believe though that if i am wrong on any point. there are those on this site who i hope will quickly point out my mistakes.
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Re: Better to Help than to Blame

Postby BFS » Tue Jul 13, 2010 3:50 pm

Thanks White Lotus :hug:



I love Matthieu Ricard's blog, filled with wisdom and such amazingly beautiful photos too!

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