reddust wrote:So a large part of my practice the last 10 years has been working in a sangha, setting up teachings and retreats. Working with other people in a sangha setting really helped me calm down. For some reason, for me anyway Sangha for layfolk is like a pressure cooker
This has come down from old, Atula, & not just from today: they find fault with one who sits silent, they find fault with one who speaks a great deal, they find fault with one who measures his words. There's no one unfaulted in the world. There never was, will be, nor at present is found anyone entirely faulted or entirely praised.
reddust wrote:Beautiful pictures Tidathep and thank you kindly. I think one of the best antidotes for anger is kindnessThis has come down from old, Atula, & not just from today: they find fault with one who sits silent, they find fault with one who speaks a great deal, they find fault with one who measures his words. There's no one unfaulted in the world. There never was, will be, nor at present is found anyone entirely faulted or entirely praised.
From the Dhammapada on Anger....
reddust wrote: I think one of the best antidotes for anger is kindness
From the Dhammapada on Anger....
"There's no one unfaulted in the world. There never was, will be, nor at present is found anyone entirely faulted or entirely praised".
This looks for me to point to the ones we think to be or the ones we think to percieve. As long as we hold on such ideas; to be really this or that or to see such or such one, so long harm by anger can be experienced.
Kindness. Boundless. Beyond discrimination.
One of my first insights were that words are empty and cannot hurt me, of course I hadn't experienced that yet in meditation, seeing how I am many things that don't seem to care one way or another what other people say. My hair, skin, ear, eye, nose, tongue, guts, blood, bile, don't react with anger when something mean is said. Why do I react with anger if none of my parts do? My teacher told me most folk don't know that, that's why we must be kind and compassionate. However, that didn't stop me from reacting to hurtful words, but at least I could keep my mouth shut and refrain from saying something hurtful in response. I still struggle with getting my feelings hurt...it's a long process to break this habit.
Kindness with wisdom, boundless, beyond discrimination is something I want to truly experience, not just say the words before I die
muni wrote:Yes whatever words are thrown upon us, sweet or awfull, we can imagine to write them in nice calligraphy on water and the water is directly explaining their value. While remaining mindful ourselves, as Buddha said that “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” And “ A tongue as sharp as a knife kills without blood”.
It should help as well to realize that those who are harming are victim of own temporary obscuration and so we as well when overwhelmed by anger.
tidathep wrote:...but the hurt-words still linger in my mind...sad but true!
tidathep wrote:I agree with you 100%.
We can't let anger/hatred eat our hearts. Once I hated somebody so much I had to find a new job, everytime I had to fly with him, I wanted to throw up..I was only 21 back then...I can't believe I could hate/angry at someone that much...will never happen again!!
I'll post Dhamma stories about anger..more...soon.
It should help as well to realize that those who are harming are victim of own temporary obscuration and so we as well when overwhelmed by anger. It is like our perfect children temporary in a sick state. ( metaphor for they don't know) All this is very easy to say but remaining aware of movements of mind can avoid conditioned actions and suffering and so burned. I think it is an example how our own dusturbed mind is the one to purify to see it is already pure without obscurations. Like a window cleaned of the dust.
Buddha wasn’t shooting arrows on mara in different forms, was watching inside, aware of the movements of mind. Not easy for sure, but by the grace of his teaching, we are supported.
Lots of babbling. Wishing a nice day.
SeekerNo1000003 wrote:Great story! Thank you for sharing.
muni wrote:We can also put attention on something others as soon as these words appear in mind, as words has no any power when our mind is not giving them attention by other thoughts.
muni wrote:tidathep wrote:Love your kind words
Thanks for teaching me kindness, dear Tidathep. It is great medicine.
Yes...KINDNESS is great medicine...(But... I love Bon Jovi's Bad Medicine too...funny/cute song.)
dharmagoat wrote:Do You Still Get Angry?
I resent that question.
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