tomamundsen wrote:I'm not trying to offend or provoke, but really, just don't use online dating sites. They are terrible for men. The online dating game works really well for women, but not for men.
I agree. Online dating is often brutally difficult for men who aren't extremely good-looking or otherwise extremely interesting to many women in their country.
Meeting women indirectly online on social-networking sites (not dating sites) can work sometimes, but often will just result in them friend-zoning you. So meeting women in person is generally better.
tomamundsen wrote:I have started a relationship from online dating in the past, but my results are way better in person. I know many other guys with the same opinion.
Just approach girls you're interested in during every-day scenarios. In the grocery store, on the street, wherever you might be where you cross paths with an interesting woman.
reddust wrote:My advice and this worked for me. Go do things you like, join a club or hobby group. I belong to several gardening, hiking, and art groups and I have met the nicest people. I used Meetup to find local groups I am interested in. Get involved in community service, I've met some real nice people doing service work. Someone may know someone and hook you up too. Dating sites can't do that for you and you don't know if the person online is being truthful about themselves. When you hang out with people you can see how people are in all sorts of situations before you get involved. Be a good person and do things you like, you will run into your lady if it's in your cards.
I've met some nice people at Dharma events too, but I swear there are a lot of crazy folk too, so be careful. If you are looking to spend you life with someone put some time and effort into yourself, be a quality person and you will attract quality people. It's hard for people to see that online.
I know lots of people who date online, but you gotta know how to sell yourself. It's all about marketing yourself as a product. If you do a search you will find how to make up a good dating profile. Most people don't know how to say good things about themselves or promote their positive qualities. That's kind of sad.
I think that wise, kind heterosexual women usually give the best advice about heterosexual dating. Therefore, listen to Reddust, Stefos!
Dating is such an emotional topic that it is so easy to swing to extremes (and we men are more comfortable with extremes, anyway, usually). If you listen to the cool "player" and "game" guys, you might gain a few insights if you are too wimpy and unassertive, but all of this can easily backfire and make you too hostile and aggressive and push women away. And all this "be a better listener and more sensitive" advice can work if you're too aggressive and self-centered, but again, going to an extreme of gentleness will also turn most women off. So really dating is a lot about staying emotionally balanced in an emotionally stressful situation (not easy!).
Stefos wrote:I'm a disabled vet who has a screwed up spine and can't have a gleaming 6 pack of abs! LOL Nor am I a slob either..I just lost 28 lbs by exercise & diet.
Did you hurt yourself in combat? Being a badass can sometimes help in the dating world. lol
Did you ever go to Survival Escape Resistance Evasion school in the military? Sometimes dating can feel like being a POW going through torture and interrogation! Those mental skills could come in handy... lol