Third precept clarification
Posted: Thu Jul 04, 2013 3:08 am
The act of making out with someone's wife or girlfriend. Is that also sexual misconduct?
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Yes - whether anyone else knows about it or not.Nighthawk wrote:The act of making out with someone's wife or girlfriend. Is that also sexual misconduct?
You mean someone else's wife or girlfriend? Then yes.Nighthawk wrote:The act of making out with someone's wife or girlfriend. Is that also sexual misconduct?
Obviously it is the source of possibly disharmony, to say the least. As for sexual misconduct, with a wife of someone else, yes, I think so, according to AN 10.176.Nighthawk wrote:The act of making out with someone's wife or girlfriend. Is that also sexual misconduct?
This may be some kind of interpolation of "antamaso mālāguḷaparikkhittāpi," even one on whom garlands have been hung.I recall reading somewhere that even giving a flower to someone else's lover is sexual misconduct. I forgot where I read that though.
I suppose it would depend on the circumstances, but if your intention is to win them over it would be and also if you're doing it secretly from either your spouse or theirs.Konchog1 wrote:I recall reading somewhere that even giving a flower to someone else's lover is sexual misconduct. I forgot where I read that though.
Oh! That's right! It was the other way around, sorry. It was 'It's sexual misconduct to flirt with someone that another has merely given flowers too'.Ben Yuan wrote:This may be some kind of interpolation of "antamaso mālāguḷaparikkhittāpi," even one on whom garlands have been hung.
If the intention to give the flower is to get into the person's pants then I can see why. Did you read this in a sutra or from a teacher?Konchog1 wrote:I recall reading somewhere that even giving a flower to someone else's lover is sexual misconduct. I forgot where I read that though.
lol no, I don't live in California and this is not something I'm thinking of doing. Just wanted to know how far the precept of sexual misconduct can go.Ben Yuan wrote:- but I have no idea, maybe you live in California or something.Nighthawk wrote:The act of making out with someone's wife or girlfriend. Is that also sexual misconduct?
Read my above post. Also, I don't remember. It might have been accesstoinsight.orgNighthawk wrote:If the intention to give the flower is to get into the person's pants then I can see why. Did you read this in a sutra or from a teacher?Konchog1 wrote:I recall reading somewhere that even giving a flower to someone else's lover is sexual misconduct. I forgot where I read that though.