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Porn Free for 90 Days

Exploring Theravāda's connections to other paths. What can we learn from other traditions, religions and philosophies?
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Re: Porn Free for 90 Days

Postby maverick » Fri Oct 05, 2012 11:54 am

From an inconstruable beginning comes transmigration. A beginning point is not evident, though beings hindered by ignorance and fettered by craving are transmigrating & wandering on. Long have you thus experienced stress, enough to be RELEASED.

The path is not about becoming a better person — it is about putting an end to becoming

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Re: Porn Free for 90 Days

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Re: Porn Free for 90 Days

Postby Dan74 » Sun Oct 07, 2012 2:46 am

"Desire is bad" is only going to get your twisted into more knots rather than get rid of desire. That's why the Buddha prescribed equanimity and insight, rather than aversion.

It's like in meditation - if you get distracted, notice and return, rather than produce more papanca on top of it.
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Re: Porn Free for 90 Days

Postby whynotme » Sun Oct 07, 2012 10:22 am

For monks, masturbation is sanghadisesa offence, wet dream is innoccent
http://tipitaka.wikia.com/wiki/Sanghadisesa
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Re: Porn Free for 90 Days

Postby dhammapal » Mon Oct 08, 2012 8:33 am

Day 21.

I think I have a handle on lust for visual nudity. In the Art Gallery bookshop I refrained from looking at life drawing and human anatomy books, figuring that they don't have the balanced view that includes the impure parts like blood, liver and contents of the stomach.

On the way home I had to change trains by crossing a platform. In my haste I bumped into two attractive young women, one of whom let out a sexy squeal. I am 6'5" and only 155 pounds but I have strong ch'i from practicing the Alexander Technique. Body contact is a deeper indulgence than looking at nude photos, the temptation of which I'll have to work with.

With metta / dhammapal.






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Re: Porn Free for 90 Days

Postby Buckwheat » Tue Oct 09, 2012 1:41 am

Purple Planet,
I do not have experience with long-term total celibacy. However, in my two stays at monasteries (only 7-10 days each) I had very little difficulty refraining from lust. I had never gone 3 days without relieving my lust, and suddenly 7-10 days with no problem. I think a large part of it has to do with the routine. First, there are very few stimulating sensations and activities... not just sexual, but no computers, no internet, no music, no pretty lights, no dramatic stories, no dirty jokes. Combined with a schedule loaded with physical labor and meditation, all of the keeping busy with not-so-stimulating activity makes celibacy relatively easy. Combine that with exercises to divert the sexual energy and cultivating insight to uproot the deeper causes of lust, and I can see how a monk might resist absolutely, although it would still be a chore (cleaning the sheets, that is).
Sotthī hontu nirantaraṃ - May you forever be well.

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Re: Porn Free for 90 Days

Postby Ben » Tue Oct 09, 2012 8:11 am

Dear all,

I think its time to close this thread for awhile.
You are welcome to contact me if you want to restart this thread and I will consider your request.
kind regards,

Ben
“No lists of things to be done. The day providential to itself. The hour. There is no later. This is later. All things of grace and beauty such that one holds them to one's heart have a common provenance in pain. Their birth in grief and ashes.”
- Cormac McCarthy, The Road

Learn this from the waters:
in mountain clefts and chasms,
loud gush the streamlets,
but great rivers flow silently.
- Sutta Nipata 3.725

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