This is the reason this thread was created. Perhaps we can get back to that now.JKhedrup wrote:I hoped we could put all agendas aside and just listen to eachother.
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- Thu Apr 10, 2014 2:18 am
- Forum: Lounge
- Topic: Personal Experiences of Discrimination
- Replies: 142
- Views: 24369
Re: Personal Experiences of Discrimination
- Thu Apr 10, 2014 2:01 am
- Forum: Lounge
- Topic: Personal Experiences of Discrimination
- Replies: 142
- Views: 24369
Re: Personal Experiences of Discrimination
Point one: The only reason there is any "meta-discussion" in this thread is because people started criticizing and denying people's experience-- instead of listening. Point two: You've made your contempt very clear. -U Point one: if you look for denial hard enough, you can find it even in...
- Thu Apr 10, 2014 1:45 am
- Forum: Lounge
- Topic: Personal Experiences of Discrimination
- Replies: 142
- Views: 24369
Re: Personal Experiences of Discrimination
Not in this thread, but others, and in PM. I just reviewed the entire thread from page one, paying attention to every post I made. The record agrees with my memory: I did not at any point in this thread say anything of that sort. Please review the thread history if you think something like this was...
- Thu Apr 10, 2014 1:12 am
- Forum: Lounge
- Topic: Personal Experiences of Discrimination
- Replies: 142
- Views: 24369
Re: Personal Experiences of Discrimination
That is certainly what Johnny Dangerous, Ven. J Khedrup, SImon E and Jamyang Tashi have very explicitly said. Others more dramatically and privately off the forum. -U Yet, for some reason, certain types of self-identity really seem to push us off our rails. A Buddhist talks about being black or que...
- Wed Apr 09, 2014 8:24 am
- Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
- Topic: Questions from a Curious World's Religions Student
- Replies: 11
- Views: 2688
Re: Questions from a Curious World's Religions Student
1. What does it mean to be human? (Do humans have souls? Do only humans have souls?) To be human is be in a condition where the thought 'I am human' occurs. What's a soul? 2. What is the basic human problem? Suffering, stress, dissatisfaction. Identifying experiences as problems. 3. What is the cau...
- Wed Apr 09, 2014 8:10 am
- Forum: Lounge
- Topic: Personal Experiences of Discrimination
- Replies: 142
- Views: 24369
Re: Personal Experiences of Discrimination
Okay can some of the men here explain to me why since I've been around 13 years old: strange men in the street feel it's okay to talk to me: "smile", "hey baby", make kissing noises, explicit sexual suggestions. Do they really think some strange woman will respond & say 'sur...
- Wed Apr 09, 2014 6:23 am
- Forum: Lounge
- Topic: Personal Experiences of Discrimination
- Replies: 142
- Views: 24369
Re: Personal Experiences of Discrimination
I never said anyone had a monopoly on abuse. Christ. This was supposed to be about sharing personal experiences, and after sharing my experiences of women in my life being abused, and how I experienced that, I'm getting accused of that. Nice. -U No one accused you of anything, untxi. I was commenti...
- Wed Apr 09, 2014 6:03 am
- Forum: Lounge
- Topic: Personal Experiences of Discrimination
- Replies: 142
- Views: 24369
Re: Personal Experiences of Discrimination
Where there is systematic and cultural abuse, is against the male sex. The only abuse I experienced and witnessed at school was at the hands of female teachers. Against this, other teachers and parents simply laugh or don't care - they don't even think that there's any issue, because the abuse is a...
- Wed Apr 09, 2014 5:12 am
- Forum: Lounge
- Topic: Personal Experiences of Discrimination
- Replies: 142
- Views: 24369
Re: Personal Experiences of Discrimination
I'm familiar with the RAINN materials. I have peer counseled men who have committed gender violence for some years. Thanks though. I prefer to approach it through meditation and mindfulness of one's impulses and their origins, especially their roots in one's environment and culture. This sounds lik...
- Wed Apr 09, 2014 4:51 am
- Forum: Lounge
- Topic: Personal Experiences of Discrimination
- Replies: 142
- Views: 24369
Re: Personal Experiences of Discrimination
What I now is that this really isn't about women. It's about men-- straight men. While I don't regret working on the effect side of this issue, I have found the causal side more rewarding and challenging. Young men really can be mentored so that they learn to not abuse women. It's very difficult an...
- Wed Apr 09, 2014 3:52 am
- Forum: Media
- Topic: The Culture of Shut Up.
- Replies: 25
- Views: 5878
Re: The Culture of Shut Up.
" Win the argument; don’t declare the argument too offensive to be won. "...one of many great quotes in what is IMO a great, exceptionally sane piece of writing on our media-inundated culture wars. [/quote] This is a great quote from the article. Declaring the argument too offensive to be...
- Wed Apr 09, 2014 12:25 am
- Forum: Lounge
- Topic: Personal Experiences of Discrimination
- Replies: 142
- Views: 24369
Re: Personal Experiences of Discrimination
A few points of observation there that might be helpful. When people don't have experience with domestic abuse, or when they have experienced it in a way that makes it seem normal, there can be a tendency to consider the behavior to be acceptable and not a high risk. It's important to understand the...
- Sat Apr 05, 2014 10:13 pm
- Forum: Zen
- Topic: Zen's view of bodhisattvas
- Replies: 14
- Views: 2960
Re: Zen's view of bodhisattvas
Although one general thing I have realized lately is that I should just try to understand Mahayana Buddhism better as whole, rather than simply trying to find a particular sect to assimilate into. Does understanding Mahayana Buddhism as a whole mean understanding all the nuances and differences bet...
- Sat Apr 05, 2014 5:32 am
- Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
- Topic: Difference between consciousness and the mind
- Replies: 499
- Views: 82923
Re: Difference between consciousness and the mind
Or, for that matter, why are there some things in the mind I can control and other things I can't?PadmaVonSamba wrote: Or, for that matter, why are there some things in the body I can control and other things I can't?
Perhaps the interface between mind and mind needs to be understood, first.
- Thu Apr 03, 2014 7:29 pm
- Forum: Pure Land
- Topic: How do you experience PL?
- Replies: 49
- Views: 11854
Re: How do you experience PL?
I call BS. Merely bringing up the words of the "Historical Buddha"TM implies reliance on sutras of "the earliest strata", which to academics (many of whom openly admit to being practitioners of Theravada) almost unanimously equate to certain Pali Suttas. Mentioning the "His...
- Thu Apr 03, 2014 6:43 pm
- Forum: Pure Land
- Topic: How do you experience PL?
- Replies: 49
- Views: 11854
Re: How do you experience PL?
The "passion" comes from the fact that we've gotta deal with this stinky dead horse every month or so; sometimes on a weekly basis. I'm not attacking anybody, I'm responding to a fellow Pure Land enthusiast who seems to be influenced by the views of another school and anticipating the res...
- Thu Apr 03, 2014 6:01 pm
- Forum: Pure Land
- Topic: How do you experience PL?
- Replies: 49
- Views: 11854
Re: How do you experience PL?
Do you think ignoring what scholars have to say about it is actually a smart thing to do? It's been well established that none of the Mahayana sutras were spoken by the historical Buddha. Why is it that when the sangha actually tries to teach instead of parroting words spoken before, that there's a...
- Thu Apr 03, 2014 5:06 am
- Forum: Lounge
- Topic: Personal Experiences of Discrimination
- Replies: 142
- Views: 24369
Personal Experiences of Discrimination
There has been some recent discussion on the board about experiences of discrimination and inequality in Buddhist communities and even outside of them. Views have been expressed that there is a lack of understanding of the experiences that people encounter in terms of inappropriate sexual advances, ...
- Wed Apr 02, 2014 8:19 pm
- Forum: Zen
- Topic: Bodhidharma statements on invoke the buddha ?
- Replies: 25
- Views: 6302
Re: Bodhidharma statements on invoke the buddha ?
Brihadaranyaka Upanishad IV 4.5 Now that's what I call wisdom! Some important differences between the teachings in the Upanishads and the teachings of Buddhism are explained briefly on wikipedia in the discussion of Buddhist and Hindu soteriology. You are intention. You are the will. You are that! ...
- Wed Apr 02, 2014 12:10 am
- Forum: Lounge
- Topic: Does God Exist?
- Replies: 33
- Views: 5544
Re: Does God Exist?
In Nagarjuna's Philosophy by K Venkata Ramanan, you will find many references to a simillar idea, namely that in the case of those 'inclined towards nihilism', the Buddha would teach the continuity of self, to drive home the point of karma. In other places where the listener was attached to the ide...