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- Fri Jan 03, 2014 5:50 pm
- Forum: Dharma Stories
- Topic: Marriage – a Dhamma point of view
- Replies: 77
- Views: 22035
Re: Marriage – a Dhamma point of view
I choose to live on my own and have very few friends, not out of fear of relationships or social inadequacy, but because I prefer to spend my time alone in order to have the opportunity to do the things that I consider interesting and important, but have never appealed to friends or partners in the...
- Fri Dec 20, 2013 6:50 pm
- Forum: Ethical Conduct
- Topic: Kids & precepts
- Replies: 22
- Views: 6293
Re: Kids & precepts
Don't worry, your friend is wrong - It's not a minimum of 5 vows. People can choose to only take the first 3 - no killing,stealing,lying - if they're not confident they can keep the other 2.
I think you're right, your daughter's too young to mention the booze & sex.
Good job, you!
I think you're right, your daughter's too young to mention the booze & sex.
Good job, you!
- Thu Dec 12, 2013 6:05 pm
- Forum: Prayers and Aspirations
- Topic: How to handle people with anger issues?
- Replies: 73
- Views: 17127
Re: How to handle people with anger issues?
Have you noticed how the men address this thread and us women? I totally agree with the guys saying you cannot change another person. But you can help your mate with their confusion and they can help you. Being helpful, caring, patient and not controlling opens up a whole new world of relationships...
- Wed Dec 11, 2013 4:24 pm
- Forum: Prayers and Aspirations
- Topic: How to handle people with anger issues?
- Replies: 73
- Views: 17127
Re: How to handle people with anger issues?
Good lord. Instead of trying to diagnose your wife's 'problem', how about just trying to be kind & gentle & understanding to her when she's not her usual happy self?
- Mon Dec 09, 2013 3:08 pm
- Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
- Topic: Does software pirating break the second precept?
- Replies: 105
- Views: 19173
Re: Does software pirating break the second precept?
Stealing is taking something that is not freely given. If the software were freely given, you wouldn't need to 'pirate' it. It seems pretty clear to me that no matter how one tries to trivialize or justify this kind of theft (and no matter how many of your friends are doing it), it's still an illeg...
- Mon Dec 09, 2013 2:51 pm
- Forum: Lounge
- Topic: Selling the dharma
- Replies: 117
- Views: 23273
Re: Selling the dharma
From an event management perspective, I understand that very large dharma gatherings (eg, Dalai Lama at an entertainment centre) can be a costly affair when you're looking at venue hire, power, stagehands, technicians, audio/staging/lighting/AV gear hire, security, catering, licensing etc... however...
- Mon Dec 09, 2013 2:24 pm
- Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
- Topic: Does software pirating break the second precept?
- Replies: 105
- Views: 19173
Re: Does software pirating break the second precept?
Stealing is taking something that is not freely given. If the software were freely given, you wouldn't need to 'pirate' it. It seems pretty clear to me that no matter how one tries to trivialize or justify this kind of theft (and no matter how many of your friends are doing it), it's still an illega...
- Tue Dec 03, 2013 4:07 pm
- Forum: Dharma Stories
- Topic: Do You Still Get Angry?
- Replies: 74
- Views: 36260
Re: Do You Still Get Angry?
Well - yes! Maybe not so much as previously, but still...and my family always says 'not very Buddhist of you' whenever I do, which makes it even more annoying. My family do that too.. yes, it's very annoying :tongue: Oh, I still get angry but not so much in the 'instantly erupting volcano' kind of ...
- Tue Dec 03, 2013 3:57 pm
- Forum: Dharma Stories
- Topic: Marriage – a Dhamma point of view
- Replies: 77
- Views: 22035
Re: Marriage – a Dhamma point of view
Marriage forms an integral part of our lives. You lost me with the first sentence.Not everyone bases their lives around getting married and producing children. Of course, if you have that commitment then your life (and your dharma practice) necessarily revolves around those relationships. However, ...
- Thu Nov 28, 2013 3:49 pm
- Forum: Tibetan Buddhism
- Topic: Ethics in the Teacher-Student Relationship
- Replies: 11
- Views: 3840
Re: Ethics in the Teacher-Student Relationship
I can imagine the damage caused could make it very difficult to maintain conviction in the Dharma, not to mention the guts it may take in the first place to actually extricate oneself from an unethical teacher. It can be quite difficult. Often, the teacher already has psychological control over the...
- Mon Nov 25, 2013 11:43 am
- Forum: Wellness, Diet and Fitness
- Topic: my mental health and mindfulness
- Replies: 7
- Views: 2441
Re: my mental health and mindfulness
Hi Ella, I'm sorry to hear about what you're going through. I also suffer from depression & earlier this year saw a psychologist who does mindfulness therapy ("ACT" - acceptance & commitment therapy) & found it helpful. In that state of mind, I'd stopped meditating & couldn...
- Mon Nov 25, 2013 11:17 am
- Forum: Gelug
- Topic: List of the works of Lama Tzonghapa available in English
- Replies: 2
- Views: 1829
Re: List of the works of Lama Tzonghapa available in English
thanks for posting!
- Mon Nov 25, 2013 11:15 am
- Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
- Topic: When Right Speech seems to give bad fruits
- Replies: 23
- Views: 4544
Re: When Right Speech seems to give bad fruits
So, I try to cool down my colleagues, explain to them that the X person is not like they say or person Y did something because he/she must to, etc. I try honestly to apply Right Speech as a way to join people together, to creat friendship. But my colleagues are so clouded that they are start thinki...
- Mon Nov 25, 2013 10:57 am
- Forum: Tibetan Buddhism
- Topic: The lamas who give Tibetan Buddhism a bad name
- Replies: 59
- Views: 20373
Re: The lamas who give Tibetan Buddhism a bad name
I think the key point from the OP's article is: He [HH Dalai Lama] also cautions against rushing into commitment to a lama. "In Tibet", he says, "it could take 12 years before a lama-disciple relationship was established." He points out that it is a big responsibility and should ...
- Mon Nov 25, 2013 10:35 am
- Forum: Wellness, Diet and Fitness
- Topic: Backyard Gardening
- Replies: 292
- Views: 85934
Re: Home grown
Today I got home from work at about lunch time & my wife had prepared an omelette. The eggs were from our backyard & so was the silver beet. She also used some capsicum & chilli, that I can't take the credit for. After lunch I spent some time feeding & watering the animals & the...
- Mon Nov 25, 2013 10:14 am
- Forum: Wellness, Diet and Fitness
- Topic: Backyard Gardening
- Replies: 292
- Views: 85934
Re: Backyard Gardening
Ahh, what a glorious garden! Gardening has saved my sanity - there's really something to be said for getting your hands in the dirt and being connected to the food you eat. I'm an avid seed-saver and grow only heirloom (old traditional) varieties of herbs, veggies & flowers. I dream of being abl...
- Fri Nov 08, 2013 4:05 pm
- Forum: Lounge
- Topic: Icelanders and their elves.
- Replies: 16
- Views: 3352
Re: Icelanders and their elves.
I guess they don't understand the no-elf teaching yet. :( That's almost as bad as the time I put a bowl of cheese puffs on the altar at meditation night. Someone asked me what they were doing there, and I said oh, they're just bodhicheetos." :applause: too funny.. i'm going to have to steal th...
- Fri Nov 08, 2013 3:38 pm
- Forum: Pure Land
- Topic: Malas - what do you think?
- Replies: 42
- Views: 12288
Re: Malas - what do you think?
I think the most important thing is that you like it, whatever you choose is something you have an affinity for. I feel like a bit of a jerk saying I have a silver mala these days. I didn't seek it out, but found one in a dharma shop & liked it, it's very tactile & weighty. Previously I felt...
- Fri Nov 08, 2013 3:19 pm
- Forum: Lounge
- Topic: Legalized Marijuana - will you smoke it?
- Replies: 121
- Views: 20726
Re: Legalized Marijuana - will you smoke it?
They don't call it 'dope' for nothing...
- Wed Nov 06, 2013 3:34 pm
- Forum: Dharma in Everyday Life
- Topic: Is spiritual progress worth it?
- Replies: 35
- Views: 5944
Re: Is spiritual progress worth it?
because it's HARD WORK! Most of us on the planet gravitate towards chasing happiness in ways that actually cause us suffering... and don't even realise we're suffering... doh..logank9 wrote:If it is the end all be all to highest happiness why isn't everyone spiritually improving themselves all the time?